Sarah Juliusson

Mama Renew: Exploring the Deeper Journey of Motherhood

Feeling Shy

June 27th, 2010

by Sarah Juliusson of www.MamaRenew.ca – Find Mama Renew on Facebook & Twitter

I’m feeling shy. This isn’t new – on the Meyers-Brigg scale I teeter just beyond the big I for introvert. I thrive with lots of alone time and in small groups, and struggle with larger groups. Yet here I am, with a business that demands engagement, a blog that invites self-reflection and vulnerable sharing, and an ever expanding community of women who are sharing in this journey.

Our Virtual Mama Renew Retreat at the end of May was wildly successful – we received over 500 comments in response to posts that invited reflection and intention-setting. Our community of facebook page members also doubled in just a two week period. Amazing! I am so overwhelmed by the response, and more than ever, excited by the potential for Mama Renew to create an authentic community of mothers.

Ok, overwhelmed – and shy. I find myself not knowing where to begin with so many new women (which is why I’m starting here…).

The sharing we enjoyed during the Virtual Retreat was exactly what I have been envisioning for Mama Renew. I want this to be something we all feel a part of.

Please, please, please share your experiences on this blog & on our facebook page. Your comment helps each of us feel a part of something larger. Your words may just spark something in another woman, serving as a reminder or an inspiration. I look forward to learning from you :)

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celebrating small things

June 1st, 2010

by Sarah Juliusson of www.MamaRenew.ca – Find Mama Renew on Facebook & Twitter

It’s the day after the retreat and Life is back to normal.  My husband has a cold.  The kids are back from school.  The garden needs a good weeding.  It is always a striking contrast to step back into our normal reality after such a step away.

We found ourselves musing on the nature of the retreat yesterday – why was it so special?  Time away, of course, is always a treat.  The open dialogue & heartfelt exchange that began from our very first evening together was extraordinary. The nature that surrounded us surely helped us feel held & nurtured.

What really made the difference, however, were the unexpected small things:

1.  Permission to make a mess. With a basket of fabric, threads & beads available 24 hours a day we reveled in the opportunity to begin a project and leave it out without worrying about the mess or our children playing with the needles.

2.  A sense of completion. We finished our tea, our baths, our walks, our creative projects, our meals…no interruptions & all the space we needed.

3.  No Responsibility. Hollyhock staff picked us up at the ferry, carried our luggage to our rooms, fed us nourishing and scrumptious meals, washed all the dishes, and made us feel like queens for 4 days.  All we had to do was enjoy.

4. Oysters on the Beach. On Saturday night we enjoyed the Hollyhock tradition of grilled & raw oysters on the beach.  The first time for a few of us, and well worth the bravery.  They were amazing, especially with their secret recipe topping which I would Love a recipe for.

5. The Tea Nook. So simple, and yet it offered us a beautiful sense of being held.  Water always hot.  A bowl of chamomile flowers & mint leaves to float in our cups.  An array of beautiful teas to choose from.

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An Unexpected Yes

May 31st, 2010

by Sarah Juliusson of www.MamaRenew.ca – Find Mama Renew on Facebook & Twitter

Part of offering a workshop at Hollyhock as a presenter is offering a one night session for members of the wider community.  Lastnight I had the opportunity to mentor a very fun workshop on Making Room for Yes (which of course also ties in beautifully with the fine art of saying No).

Over the course of the evening I became increasingly clear that I had my own No to say.  With a back injury that has now migrated into shoulder & neck I am needing to be very careful with my movements to support healing.  Hollyhock hosts a wonderful early morning row out to a small rock island, however, and I WANTED to go, along with other women from our group.

So this morning I went down to the beach at 6:45 planning to simply photograph them & wave goodbye.  As I said my reluctant but clear “No” the guide welcomed me onto the boat with his 100% support to not row at all.   While saying “no” was hard, saying “yes” was even harder.  To know that 10 other people were going to do all the work while I simply sat there?  Excruciating!  and Lovely.

Your Virtual Retreat task is to consider –   Is there something you need to say No to?  Even if you truly Long to be able to say Yes?  What might open up in your life if you are able to say the No that needs to be said?

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On the road again…

May 27th, 2010

by Sarah Juliusson of www.MamaRenew.ca – Find Mama Renew on Facebook & Twitter

On the top of the How to Get to Hollyhock guide we’ll be following today it says

“Some Say It’s All About the Journey.”

In the case of Hollyhock either it’s true, or we’re a bit mad to be taking a total of 3 ferries and two taxis to get to Cortes Island.

I love road trips.  I don’t love the driving or gas station bathrooms.  I do, however, love that suspended from reality feeling I get on a road trip.  The feeling of being unknown, unneeded, inbetween worlds & responsibilities. I’m simply on the journey.

While I’ve always loved the feeling of the journey (I travelled through latin america & africa in life before children), it has become even more of a delight as a mother.  I find myself particularly struck by the simple fact that others I meet don’t even know I’m a mom.  Sometimes I find myself deliberately bringing them up in casual conversation, missing the way in which they shape who I am & how others see me.  Other times I revel in being an unknown quantity, able to define myself without my children shaping others perception of me.

We’re off this morning.  You won’t hear from us again until late afternoon when we arrive on Cortes.

Your first Virtual Retreat activity?  Road Trip!
Find some way to create a journey in your day.  Driving kids to school/lessons/sports?  Put on some favourite music & crank it up after they leave the car.

Have an hour to yourself?  Go somewhere new and give yourself a taste of discovery & anonymity.

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Mothers are…

May 19th, 2010

by Sarah Juliusson of www.MamaRenew.ca – Find Mama Renew on Facebook & Twitter

Every once in a while a gem appears – this time on the counter at the thrift store.  There, in resplendent purple, was a splendid 1970something little gift book for mothers called Mothers Are Like That.

It was originally a gift from Paul, Ann, Alfie, Manon and Damon to their mother & grandmother, whoever she may be.  Thank you for passing it on to Salvation Army and allowing this treasure to fall into my hands!

Over the next year we’ll be sharing images & commentary from this splendid little Mother-honouring book.   Hidden within are treasures of wisdom and insight into the life of a mother.  For example, did you know that Mothers like clouds and rainbows and a sun that’s shining bright?   It is charming, playful, full of blatant stereotypes, and just plain heart-warming.

Gratitude to the creators of:

Mothers Are Like That by Jo-Ann M. Daughterty from “The Sunbeam Library” in 1970 or so.  Illustrated by Barbi Sargent (creator of the Strawberry Shortcake character) and Craig Brown.

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March 15th, 2010

by Sarah Juliusson of www.MamaRenew.ca – Find Mama Renew on Facebook & Twitter

playaI’m going to Mexico with my mom this week.  In the past year we have celebrated our 40th and 70th birthdays, and she wisely proposed that we honour this momentous year with a shared adventure.

We’ve never done this before.  The most we’ve managed is an outing to the mall, a few treasured day hikes, and antique foraging. I haven’t spent this much time alone with her since our tour of east coast colleges when I was 17 – a mere 23 years ago…

It’s a beautiful gift, this time together – I’m stepping away from my family, work, and a greenhouse waiting for me to begin this years seedlings.  She too is leaving behind responsibilities at home, the church, her volunteer work and the garden club. We’re shedding our busy days with the hope to reconnect as women, and as mother and daughter.

As mother-daughter teams go, we’re pretty darned good.  We enjoy and respect one another, and share in our love of colour, antiques, sewing, cooking, and music.

Still, we lead very different lives, and at times we have both struggled to respect the other’s choices and lifestyle. Every visit includes one good squabble and cry, and my husband and brothers all now simply wait for it to come, and know that it will pass…

For this time together I will strive to:
1. Do my best to listen with my heart.
2. Ask good questions.
3. Be open to learning something new about her.
4. Enjoy her and have a good laugh every day.
5. Honour all that she has given me.
6. Share openly about my life & choices.
7. Know that the love I feel for my boys is the same love as she feels for me.
8. Love and appreciate her as she is.

Here’s to hoping that what happens in Mexico,
comes home from Mexico…

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Why Hollyhock #2: We Won’t Talk about our Children

March 11th, 2010

communityHave you ever managed to arrange for a glorious outing with dear mama friends and found yourselves just talking about your kids? It seems that when we’re together with other parents we can’t help ourselves. I remember coming home from my first baby playgroup and feeling thrilled to have spent 2 hours talking about cloth diapers.

Motherhood has a tremendous capacity to bring women together. The daily life of loving and raising our children brings a sense of shared experience that transcends cultural, economic and social barriers. Yet there is more to talk about than just our children…

Renewal: A Retreat for Mothers is unique in that we will bring together a circle of women at all stages in the journey of motherhood. Mothers of toddlers, tweens, teens, and empty nesters are all welcome. So far those registered have children ages 2 – 24. We have much to learn from one another.

Here’s the catch: We won’t actually talk about our children.

You’ll have the opportunity to introduce them to the group, share a photo and a symbol of their place in your life and heart. And then we’ll set them aside, knowing they are in good hands at home. Our focus for the 4 days and 3 nights will be all about You.

We will explore your journey as a woman and mother – who you’ve become, how you’ve grown, what you’ve set aside, what you celebrate and what you miss. Just you and a circle of mothers who have taken the same bold step as you.

As shared so movingly in this video by Kelly Corrigan, we live our life as mothers in circles, surrounded by others who offer us support, perspective, love, and understanding. We hope our time together will offer a powerful reflection of this shared journey we’re on.

See you there?   Space is limited!

For mothers of todders, tweens, teens & empty nesters

Visit the Mama Renew and Hollyhock websites to Learn More

or call Sarah at 604.254.1100

and Hollyhock at 1-800-933-6339 x232

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Dancing Queen

March 2nd, 2010

by Sarah Juliusson of www.MamaRenew.ca – Find Mama Renew on Facebook & Twitter


Self-Care Inspiration

When was the last time you danced?


With your kids on a rainy afternoon…a sobbing baby in your arms…or at a club?

If it has been too long, one night this week close the curtains
and light the candles after bedtime.
Turn on the music, Loud, and dance – just dance
alone or with a loved one, dance wild and free.

image8“When did you stop dancing? When did you stop singing?
When did you stop being enchanted by stories?
When did you stop finding comfort
in the sweet territory of silence?

Where we have stopped dancing, singing, being enchanted by stories,
or finding comfort in silence is where we have experienced the loss of soul.
Dancing, singing, storytelling, and silence are the four universal healing salves.”

-Gabrielle Roth, 5Rhythms

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One Hot Mama

February 16th, 2010

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by Sarah Juliusson of www.MamaRenew.ca Find Mama Renew on Facebook & Twitter

A dear friend recently changed her facebook relationship status.  Now any of you who do facebook will know the hub bub this usually brings about.  Couples who have married for a decade annnounce their status and get a flurry of congratulations.  Public breakups or  the dreaded “it’s complicated” status invoke our collective curiosity and a certain discomfort.  When someone announces out of the blue that they are “in a relationship” we all want to know more More MORE!

Now, this particular friend had been in a longterm relationship, then was listed as single, and then suddenly reemerged as “engaged.”  What?  A closer look revealed the following text just below:

Engaged…with myself.  It’s about time!

I can’t stop thinking about how marvelous that is.  What a gift to all of us who are in relationship with her through facebook.  With a simple status change, she announced to her community of friends that she is committed to loving herself.  We could all use a relationship like that….

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Self-Care Inspiration

We hope you had a lovely Valentine’s Day

but we’re thinking it’s time for a new romance

because you’re One Hot Mama.

How’s your relationship with marvelous you?

Perhaps you could use a special date together to help rekindle the romance

& fall in love with You…

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The Importance of Mama Time

February 11th, 2010
by Sarah Juliusson of www.MamaRenew.ca Find Mama Renew on Facebook & Twitter

The first in our series of Why Hollyhock? posts…if your little one is too young for you to attend our Mama Renew retreat this year, let this be a nudge to remembering why Mama Time is so important.

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Imagine stepping out of the routine to a place where the only responsibility you have is to care for yourself. No dishes, no work, no carpooling, no sibling squabbles. Nobody else’s needs come first.

As you imagine such a reality you may find yourself thinking that you couldn’t possibly take 3 nights away from your family, or feel reluctant to ask for that much time & investment for yourself.

We have to step out of the routine to step back into ourselves. It has been said that we have to say a lot of small “no’s” to make room for a big Yes.

This as an opportunity to say a Great Big Yes!

hot-tub-225x300Those of you who say Yes will be surrounded by stunning ocean, mountains, and spring flowers. You will eat food so delicious and nourishing that you’ll buy the Hollyhock cookbook to try and recreate the goodness at home. You’ll soak in the oceanfront hot tub for sunrise or stargazing and anytime you please in between. You can choose from daily yoga, dance workshops, massage treatments, kayak outings and more.

Every moment of our time together is designed to nurture and inspire, gently nudge and deeply challenge, and give you the space and time you need to reconnect with yourself as a woman and mother.

See you there? Space is limited!

For mothers of todders, tweens, teens & empty nesters

Visit the Mama Renew and Hollyhock websites to Learn More

or call Sarah at 604.254.1100

and Hollyhock at 1-800-933-6339 x232

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