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Laura Egley Taylor

Then a miracle occurs . . .

When the going gets tough, the tough. . .

March 25th, 2011

DANCE!

Cleaning up 35 years of magazining is painful.

So, obviously, is saying goodbye to the fabulous Production Department trio we’ve* had the opportunity to be, back in the  golden days of yore** when we worked together to create a magazine.

So when Melissa stopped by last night, Mel and I stopped our cleaning and sighing, threw a CD (one I had found in a pile of old review submissions), Totally ’80s for Kids, into the computer, cranked up the volume, and danced our saddened hearts out.

 

P.S. For the record, I am not a fan of ’80s pop, but I have to admit it’s hard to beat for the post-apocalyptic office dance party. Thank you, Kool and the Gang.#

*Managing Editor Melissa Chianta, Staff Photographer/Ad Production Manger Melyssa Holik, and I

**i.e. as recently as the March-April issue, but the uncertainty of the future makes the charmed past seem so long ago


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Mama Ache

March 24th, 2011

Wee-hour anxiety. Pretty sure you know what I’m talking about—it comes with parenting.

Our 21-year-old son, Reeve, was home for a couple of nights this week. It’s Spring Break, and he and friends are on their way up to Estes Park, Colorado, where their mentor is getting married Saturday. Since nobody has any money, and Reeve’s car (a hand-me- down from his cousin Nick) is in better shape at 19 years old and 190,000 miles than anyone else’s, he’s driving.

Last night, knowing Reeve was hitting the road today—in his stalwart but ancient car— driving for 9 hours loaded down with friends and luggage and homemade cookies, I was overcome with that familiar late-night / early-morning anxiety. He’s an excellent driver and remarkably responsible (compared to me at his age, anyway), but still I worry—even as I know that this road trip is merely an excuse for all the many things a mother can worry about.

I couldn’t help but look in on him as he slept (the layout of our goofy apartment is such that we have to go through his room to get to the bathroom anyway)—stopping by his bed to listen to his breathing, finding comfort in the quiet rhythm of his breath and remembering other times over the years when I’ve done this.

I thought of my very first incident of wee-hour mama ache, a little more than 22 years ago. Tim and I had just discovered that I was pregnant. We hadn’t thought we wanted be parents (didn’t think we had what it takes), so this news was huge and scary. On this particular night, sick with a respiratory bug (unable, of course, to take cold medicine—I was terrified by the realization that, just two months in, I already held the well-being of this brand new tiny person in my ridiculously inept hands!), I sat through the night, propped up, mouth-breathing, rubbing my belly, and worrying about the future.

(For the record, I listened all night that night to Steve Roach’s Structures from Silence, the soothing strains of which can now immediately take me back to that feeling of impending scary newness.)

Odd feeling to think back so far in my “parenting career” and to realize how much I’ve learned (and worried!) over the years, growing along with Reeve. I was good at worrying then—but I somehow managed to trust (myself? God? life?) through the fear. And somehow got to this place where I find myself worrying—and marveling!—over our baby, a grown man. And trying to continue to trust.

 

Photo: I know, I know. YOU look at this photo and see a young MAN. Intelligent, responsible, capable, etc. It’s a cliché, of course—and as sappy as they come—but when I look at this, I see the vulnerable being Tim and I were entrusted with. Mother vision?

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the village

March 10th, 2011

My son, Reeve, saw his first opera when he was 5. I didn’t take him—I had never really paid any attention to opera. Neither had my husband, Tim.

No, it was Paula, the mother of one of Reeve’s classmates, who took him to see a Santa Fe Opera youth night performance of “The Marriage of Figaro.”

If it had been up to me, Reeve would never have seen an opera. I was not an opera-goer. I’ve been many times in the years since, but that’s because he got me interested, not the other way around. I’m grateful to Paula for sharing something with Reeve that I would not have thought to.

It takes a village to raise a child—that old African proverb made popular by Hillary Clinton in the 1990s. It may be overused, but there’s still substance there. Paula was one of those people in Reeve’s village. And there have been many, many more:

His best friend’s aunt who taught him to swim

Three adult friends who  gave him their old guitars, one who taught him to play

My sister, who early on taught him the art of conversation: “I’ll ask you a question, and you answer; then you ask me a question, and I answer; then I ask you a question. . . Got it?”

A little less socially valuable but no less fun for Reeve, my brother, who put Reeve to bed one night and instead of reading a bedtime story, told him a bunch of “Yo Mama” jokes

The preschool teacher who gave him his very own child-size pitcher and taught him to pour his own water or juice or milk from it

Austin’s mom, Barb, who, when Reeve was too fearful to sleep during his very first sleepover, brought in a sleeping bag and lay down on the floor next to him til he fell asleep

The 6th-grade teacher who invited him to synagogue; the poet who shared what she knew about Buddhism

The Shakespeare play-reading group of adults who welcomed the 13-year-old Reeve with love and respect and supported his growth and learning over the years

The voice teacher who told him he could sing

I could go on and on. So many villagers. So much love. All my gratitude.

 

Photo: Reeve as Figaro in New Mexico State’s production of “The Marriage of Figaro” last weekend.

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the end of an era

March 1st, 2011

the-endAnd then the carefree child, grateful for the experience of being—the joys of learning and sharing with others, the richness of growth and discovery—dashes across the beckoning bridge and on to new things on the other side.

The End

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The digital version of our March–April 2011 issue will go live later today. This issue will be Mothering‘s last—the magazine is no longer being published in print or digital format. Here’s how our publisher, Peggy O’Mara, put it on her blog.

After 35 years of making magazines, the staff at Mothering is obviously deeply saddened by this change—even as we understand that continuing to print would be financially unsustainable—for many reasons, including the loss of several very dear fellow staffers.

I’m sure I’ll feel the need to blog more about this later, but for now, there’s work to be done. As Peggy wrote, Mothering still exists, but as a website and online community—and there’s a lot going on there!

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Our final cover image is a reprise of a photo by Cheryl Steinhoff which we ran in an July–August 2008 article about the simple pleasures of  summer.

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Wool Dryer Balls

February 28th, 2011

dryer-ballsThe following is a guest post by Mothering’s Melissa Holik, dishing some behind-the-scenes how-tos for an article in our brand new March-April issue, “A Green Clean.”

As Laura and I were prepping for the “Green Clean” photo shoot, we sat down—as we usually do for these shoots—and made a shopping list of all the products from the article and how they might look together:

“Vinegar, that’s clear. Baking soda, white. We need some color. . . . OK . . . . flowers, maybe bright yellows and oranges? Gloves, can we can get some in green? Reusable dryer ball . . . uh . . . wait, what?”

Laura had never heard of such a thing. I had often eyed these reusable dryer balls in the stores, but I’d resisted getting them because I despise plastic. I tried in vain to describe the ones I’d seen: “Well, they’re like these pink and blue spiky balls of plastic . . . I don’t think they’re going to look so good with the rest of the colors.” Before making the final call, Laura wanted a visual. So, we did what we always do: Google it!

Our Google image search returned many shots of the blue spiky balls, but further down in the results were images of beautiful, soft, natural-looking balls. Intrigued, we clicked on one to find out more. That’s when we found out about the world of wool dryer balls. It’s difficult to convey just how excited I was about this discovery. (I know, I should get out more.) A natural and beautiful alternative to the plastic balls?!? And even better. . . something I could make?

The internet had a couple of different tutorials on how to make them. I was pumped. We added yarn to the shopping list, and I spent a Sunday afternoon happily assembling about a dozen of these balls in colors to coordinate with the rest of the photo shoot.  Here’s what I did:

_MG_7867Materials:
100% wool yarn
herbs (optional)
small crochet hook
old panty hose
non-wool string or yarn (small quantity)

1. Loop the yarn around 2 fingers. Loop it around several times.

2. Slide it off your fingers and grasp the loops firmly on one _MG_7870side. Here’s where you can add herbs if you like. I tried adding lavender and roses, and had kind of limited luck with it. It’s tricky but possible to accomplish,even with something as small and loose as lavender buds. Still, it’s a temporary scent, and you can always leave it out.

3. Pinch the loops and start wrapping yarn crosswise to make a stick shape. Fold the stick into a U shape and keep wrapping. It should be starting to look like a ball.

4. Keep wrapping the yarn around and around, turning the ball _MG_7872as you go to get even coverage all the way around.

5. When the ball is the size you’d like, use the crochet hook to pull the ends into the ball.

6. Place the balls in a cut-off old pair of panty hose and tie it off with the non-wool string.

7. Place the panty-hose-wrapped balls into the washing machine without other laundry and wash in HOT water. This will “felt” the balls and make them fuzzy._MG_7887

Here’s where I ran in to some trouble. I’ve never felted anything before, so this part was new to me. According to the felting info I found online, sometimes you have to repeat the hot water wash several times. I felt like I was doing this FOREVER. I found one article that said adding baking soda would help, and it seemed to, a bit. But after a half dozen washings they still seemed sadly un-fuzzy. My partner suggested that I may have tied them too tightly in the hose, so I washed them a few more times outside the hose since they were already holding their shape pretty well. This tactic also seemed to help, a bit, but they _MG_7892still weren’t as fuzzy as I would like. I put them in the dryer, hoping they’d fuzz up some more in there. Which brings me to step 8. . .

8. Take them out of the hose and put them in the dryer to continue the felting process.

After several dryer cycles, I still would have liked them to be fuzzier, but I gave up and decided they were “good enough.”

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And there you have it! If you’re a knitter or crocheter, this would be a great project to use up little bits and pieces from your stash, so long as you only use 100% wool. If you don’t have scraps of yarn, you can buy wool and make them in any color you like. I still have the ones from the photo shoot, and they’re a cheerful spot of color in my otherwise fairly bleak laundry cupboard! —Melyssa Holik

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Photos taken by Melyssa Holik, Mothering‘s intrepid investigator on the DIY scene

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For Valentine’s Day: Cute thumbprint cards for your Valentines

February 13th, 2011

vday-cardsRemember the fun of exchanging those cute (and, well, corny) valentines in elementary school? Times have changed, but kids still love to swap valentines.

Here are some quick and easy ones for you to make. Just print out these charming cards (designed by Mothering staffer Melyssa Holik) from one of the PDFs provided below and customize them with a thumbprint.

(To download instructions and to see examples of where thumbprints might go, click here.)

What you’ll need
• card stock (white or lightly colored)
• a stamp pad
•  thumbs
• crayons, markers, paint, or glitter (optional)

What you do

1. Download one of these PDFs:
To print onto 8 1/2 x 11 in. paper (four cards on a page), download the file here.
To print onto 4 x 6 in. paper (one card per page), download the file here.

2. Print the pages onto paper or card stock.

3. Cut out cards.

4. Decide where thumbprint should go in picture.

5. Press thumb on stamp pad, then on card to make thumbprint.

6. Add additional decoration using markers or paint or glitter, if you’d like.

7. Add a personal note or secret message.

8.  Drop card into in your Valentine’s hand-decorated paper mailbox!

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P.S. Check out the other fun and crafty Valentine projects Melyssa Holik and I created as part of our 2011 V-Day Crafty Challenge. (Scroll down to the P.S.)

Card designs by Melyssa Holik

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For Valentine’s Day: Sweets for your Sweetie

February 12th, 2011

brownie-bagsBag some sweets for your sweetie with these fun designs you can print out on small paper bags—plus a fabulous recipe for sea salt brownies!

P.S. Click here (and scroll down to the P.S.) to see the other fun and crafty V-Day projects Melyssa Holik and I have undertaken this week.

(Click to download printable PDFs of these instructions and Mel’s bag designs.)

What you’ll need
• small paper bags (often sold as “lunch bags”)
• a printer
• pinking shears (optional, but they make for a nice-looking bag top)
• treats to put in the bags (We highly recommend the sea-salt brownies below!)

What you do

1. Download the bag patterns mentioned above and select the pattern you’d like to print onto your bag.

2. Print a test page onto paper, then hold the test page up to your paper bag to see where on the bag the ink will land. Make a note of the orientation (which direction the top of the bag should be facing) since every printer seems to be different!

3. Place paper bag in your printer (where you normally would put paper).

4. Set your print settings to a custom paper size of 5 x 7 inches.

5. Print!

6. (Optional) Using pinking shears, cut off the upper 2-3 inches of the bag (to make it look less like a lunch bag)

7. Fill with treats and give to the Valentines in your life.

Note: It can be difficult to get a paper bag to go through a printer. It might be necessary to try turning the bag (and adjusting the orientation of the design accordingly before you print). We found it worked best with our printer to feed the bag into the printer open-end first and with the flap on top, facing us.

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Sea Salt Brownies recipe by Cathe Olson

Cathe says: These are my favorite brownies. They are moist, fudgy, rich, and the touch of salt perfectly complements the sweetness. You’ll never go back to plain brownies!

4 ounces semi-sweet baking chocolate, broken into 1-inch pieces
1/2 cup unsalted butter or nonhydrogenated margarine
2/3 cup unbleached sugar (evaporated cane juice)
1 teaspoon vanilla extract
2 large eggs or equivalent egg replacer
3/4 cup whole wheat pastry flour
1/4 teaspoon baking powder
1/4 teaspoon salt
1/2 cup semi-sweet chocolate chips
Coarsely ground sea salt

Preheat oven to 350 degrees F. Oil an 8-inch square baking pan.

Melt chocolate and butter in a small saucepan over low heat, stirring as needed to prevent scorching. When smooth, remove  pan from heat and cool to room temperature.

Pour cooled chocolate mixture into a mixing bowl and whisk in sugar and vanilla.

In a separate bowl, sift together flour, baking powder and salt. Gently stir flour mixture into chocolate mixture. Fold in chocolate chips.

Spread batter in prepared baking dish. Lightly sprinkle the batter with coarsely ground sea salt. Bake 25 to 30 minutes, until mixture is firm.

Cool at least 30 minutes before cutting.

Makes 16

—Cathe Olson

Cathe Olson is a frequent Mothering contributor and author of Simply Natural Baby Food, The Vegetarian Mother’s Cookbook, and Lick It! Creamy Dreamy Vegan Ice Creams Your Mouth Will Love. Check out Cathe’s website and blog.

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Photo and bag designs by Melyssa Holik

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For Valentine’s Day: Fun and Easy Felt Necklaces

February 11th, 2011

felt-necklacesMore from Mel and Laura’s Fabulous Crafty V-Day Undertaking: A quick and easy project for Valentines of all ages!

(To download a printable PDF of these instructions and shape templates, click here.)

What you’ll need

•    scissors
•    pieces of felt in a variety of colors (we used 9 x 12 inch sheets of basic felt)
•    tacky glue
•    yarn

What to do

1. Download and print out the provided PDF of instructions and shapes.

2. Using pins or a stapler, attach the felt to the page containing the shape you want to cut out (so that it won’t slip when you cut it).

3. Cut out the shapes you want to use. (If you want to make a more complex shape, glue a smaller shape onto a larger one. Allow the glue to dry before proceeding.)

4. To create a hole for the yarn to go through, fold at the line indicated on the pattern and carefully cut a semi-circle.

5. Cut yarn to the length you want the necklace to be (approx 18-24 inches). Leave enough room to slip over the wearer’s head.

6. Thread the yarn through the hole and tie ends to secure.

7. Give the necklace to your Valentine!

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Photos and design by Melyssa Holik

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For Valentine’s Day: Snow globes

February 11th, 2011

three-globesAll these years, I haven’t forgotten snow globes we made out of baby food jars when I was in kindergarten. I loved those things! So when—as the snow was yet again coming down outside our office windows—Mel and I started putting together our list of things to make for Valentine’s Day, I saw my chance to create these again.

Back in the day, we used some pretty awful plastic flowers (I think we were making our snow globes as Mother’s Day presents), but I thought it might be fun to try making some using old castoff toys and gumball machine trinkets. Here’s how it works. . .

(To download a printable PDF of these instructions, click here.)

What you’ll needninja-v-glue
• small glass jar (my favorite turned out to be not the standard baby food jar but a jar that horseradish came in)
• glue gun
• white glitter
• distilled water
• small toy or plastic flower or greenery

What to do

1. Wash jar and remove label. (If label leaves sticky residue, rub it with vegetable oil, then wash with soap.)

2. Wash and dry jar lid and toy.pouring

3. Glue toy to inside of lid using glue gun. (Note: some of the lids didn’t have linings of any sort, so the inside of the lid was exposed metal. Because the inside of the lid is the “ground” for the snow globe, I wanted it to be white. So I cut circles out of white yogurt container lids and glued them into the jar lids.)

4. Put a small amount (approx. 1 tsp) of glitter in jar. (Amount depends on size of jar.)

5. Fill jar to brim with distilled water.upside-down

6. Carefully screw lid onto jar. (You probably will want to do this over the sink.)

7. Turn jar over and let it snow!

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A couple of notes:
I found that, surprisingly, some baby food jars, once opened, will not re-seal. So, when choosing the jar to use for your snow globe, check to make sure it will seal before you get started. (I ended up having to put glue around the edges of my jar lid before screwing it on, to ensure that no water would leak out.)

After making these, I read online that adding a tiny bit of glycerin will keep the “snow” up in the air longer, in case you want to try that.

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Photos by Melyssa Holik

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