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Jennifer Margulis

Mothering Outside the Lines

The Baby is Three Months Old Today

February 4th, 2010

cb_044bwtBaby Leone is three months old today.

Three months already but it feels like she was just born.

She likes to gurgle, look at her hands, and she has almost found her toes.

She’s social and she smiles a lot but beware the friendly soul who wants to hold her: she almost immediately starts to cry with people she doesn’t know.

I think she can tell by the way that they smell that they’re not me, or her dad, or her siblings.

One of the only times she didn’t cry right away was when the PBS producer, Kate McMahon, held her. Kate is a lactating mom (she has an almost 12-month-old) so she probably smelled familiar to Leone, like breast milk.

The baby is also an expert drooler and an expert spitter-upper.

Only, the spit up, now that she’s so grown-up, no longer happens right after she nurses. Since it’s not fresh, it comes out curdled, like yogurt.

The drool and the spit-up get into the folds of fat around her neck, which smell yeasty, like baking bread. It’s so hard to get to her neck to clean it. The drool keeps it wet and the fat keeps it warm, so some of the skin in there looks red and irritated.

Her belly button is also irritated. At Baby Yoga on Monday I noticed it smelled funny, like fish. We cleaned it and put some golden seal powder on it and it seems to be better.

She’s such a calm, patient baby. Etani and Hesperus were that way too. I know it’s no prediction of her future personality so I have to remind myself to enjoy the quiet and serenity for as long as it lasts.

Happy three month birthday Baby!

Photo by Christopher Briscoe

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Drool

February 2nd, 2010
She may look cute but she's drooly

She may look cute but she's drooly

Baby Leone has started to drool.

She drools in the morning. She drools in the afternoon. She drools in the evening. And she drools all night long.

She likes to blow bubbles in the drool.

I feel like I am covered in drool. Because I am.

She has no teeth. She eats no food. What is there to drool about anyway?

“Mommy,” her 8-year-old sister Athena tells me. “Let’s find out by looking in your book.”

“MY book?”

“That book you wrote about baby behavior. Don’t you have a chapter on drool?”

How does Athena know these things? She’s right, of course. A few years back I spent months and months researching and writing a gift book for new moms and dads called Why Babies Do That: Baffling Baby Behavior Explained, and there is definitely a chapter on drool.

I must really be a postpartum sleep deprived soul to be quoting my own book to explain to my own self why my own baby is drooling. What can I say? Re-reading this chapter, I’m relieved to see I was neither sleep-deprived nor postpartum when I wrote it. So here goes:

A baby usually starts to drool when tooth buds form under the gums and then erupt into teeth. Their gums may appear red and swollen and, if you run a finger along the gum line, you can usually feel the bumps of new teeth growing just under the surface.

Aha! I’ll have to try that. But isn’t Leone too young to get teeth? Wait, there’s more:

Babies usually get their first teeth between four and seven months of age, though this is just an average. It’s not uncommon for a one-year-old to have a completely toothless, albeit charming, grin, and some babies are born with one or two pearly whites already in their mouths. However, long before we see any teeth in a baby’s mouth, the drooling is usually in full force.

But, I wonder, what if the baby’s drooling has nothing to do with teething? Apparently, that may also be the case (according to myself, that is. Jacques Derrida, is this post making you happy?)

Although drooling is most often linked to teething, a baby can drool anytime. Why? Whenever a foreign object is placed in the mouth, the mouth will begin producing saliva. The production of saliva is the first step in the digestive process and saliva works to break down starches into their component sugars.

I remember this from Bio 101 where the teacher made us suck on crackers and the crackers started to get sweet in our mouths. But I still don’t get why this is making Leone drool. Here’s the answer:

When adults salivate, we swallow the excess saliva. When babies salivate, they do not sense the need to swallow, and the excess saliva dribbles down their chins instead.

Thank you, self, for the enlightening explanation. Now if only I could remember to bring a spit-up cloth when we go out.

The cover of my book, Why Babies Do That

The cover of my book, Why Babies Do That

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