Comments on: People’s Reactions When I Tell Them I’m Pregnant

By: Stephanie

Stephanie — Tue, 03 Nov 2009 17:52:45 +0000

I’m right there with ya! I just had my 4th boy. At least people tried to be polite to you. I had two people laugh in my face and say “sucks for you”. People can be jackasses. Anyway, No he wasn’t planned. He was a gift.

As for this bumpaholics theory, give me a break! Each of my pregnancies has been high risk and required surgery just to keep them in there. Bed rest sucks, and for this last one, I was hospitalizes no less than a dozen times to try to stop contractions. Yeah, that’s cause for addiction.

Other than those two obnoxious women, who had four or more kids of their own btw, everyone else was just happy. I think we all worry about everything as parents, but a gift is a gift, and I wouldn’t trade my bun for all the money in the world.

By: Stephanie - Wasabimon

Stephanie - Wasabimon — Tue, 03 Nov 2009 04:31:14 +0000

Oh! Really?! How insensitive. I can’t believe people would be so rude, especially people you know! Terrible.

By: Vera Marie Badertscher

Vera Marie Badertscher — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 20:10:59 +0000

So funny! But so sad that people suddenly think it is THEIR business what you are doing with your private lives. Maybe you should respond “Yes we are increasing our family. And why did you choose that job you’re in? and did your income go up or down last year?”

By: Katherine

Katherine — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 09:46:54 +0000

I love the stick figure cartoon. I am surprised you get comments like this from casual acquaintances. I would NEVER ask such a personal question in this day and age. Fertility – and lack thereof – is an extremely private matter and you’re just asking for trouble to take it lightly.

By: ReadyMom

ReadyMom — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 01:56:33 +0000

Going along with what Meredith says, for some reason when it comes to pregnancy, people feel like they can ask more personal questions then they normally would (and touch your belly without asking!). I remember when I was pregnant with my third child and found out she was a girl (also my third), the reaction often was, “Is your husband disappointed?” No, I thought–and said. I like your friend’s suggestion on responding to some of these questions.

By: Meredith Resnick - The Writer's [Inner] Journey

Meredith Resnick - The Writer's [Inner] Journey — Wed, 28 Oct 2009 22:23:41 +0000

This is so funny, Jennifer…but isn’t it odd how people just kind of insert themselves into others’ personal affairs with questions that are really none of their business? Your response is a good one indeed.

By: Almost Slowfood

Almost Slowfood — Wed, 28 Oct 2009 18:12:56 +0000

OMG!!! LOL!!! I hope to use that line some day when we are trying for our fourth in New York City!! I only have one right now, but I came from a family of four and I hope we’ll get to that number. I loved growing up in a large family. I just don’t understand why people treat it like it’s a weird thing to do… And I just don’t understand why people feel like they can ask such personal questions… uggh

By: Kimberly Ford

Kimberly Ford — Wed, 28 Oct 2009 17:48:03 +0000

I have to say that I’ve fallen prey to these thoughts–but blog entries like this one (though not on this exact issue–a fourth child) have taught me to keep my mouth shut when questions regarding reproduction crop up. As a mother of three, who always thought she’d have four but couldn’t quite get there–I can say that my lowest moment was at a school picnic when my youngest was two. An acquaintance came up to me and framed my belly–which I consider rather modest–with her hands and said, “Ahh! You’re having a fourth!” when I wasn’t anywhere near being pregnant. This might be slightly more demoralizing that the questions above!