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Intolerant of Other Parents

Naomi Aldort

I have read your book and am so inspired. I feel so much more confident and relaxed as a mother and my son is responding beautifully. Unfortunately, I am often feeling very frustrated and sometimes intolerant around other parents. I find myself judging them for being too strict, though I know that ultimately, they are doing their best. I don't even want to be around some of my closest friends because it is so hard for me to watch them punish their children when their children are only seeking love and support. Is it normal for friendships/connections to change so drastically after having a child?

Dear parent,

Yes, it is normal to shift friendships as a result of parenting. However, you can also connect and make a difference. Many parents tell me that they give my book and CDs as gifts to other parents and in this way manage to nurture some of these relationships

and grow together. One mother even gave her friend a phone session with me. A few

invited me to offer a workshop for their community.

However, your intolerance is typical in the early phases of learning. As you become more rooted in yourself, it would be easier to be at peace with the way other parents are and be nurturing rather than judgmental. You already recognize their innocence. Now it is time for your to realize your own innocence in judging them in your mind. In the moment your mind judges them, you are doing to them (in your mind) the same thing

they do to their children (innocently.) Eventually, you will learn to use your parenting skills in relating to these well intentioned parents.

Peace comes when you live only your own life, and work on your own inner peace with however the world is. You may still choose to stay away from certain families for your child’s sake, but with no ill feelings. 

The more open your loving heart is and the more you use your parenting skills in relating to other parents, the more they are likely to want what you have to offer and learn. Most, however, won’t follow your path; just like children, they follow their own.

Parenting leads to new friendships and as the children grow up they bring to you even more friends, most of whom will not be like you. 

Warmly, http://authenticparent.com/index.html



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