My BILs are intact as well and have never had a problem. My circ'd dh is the unhappy one.
You never know what your son will want when he gets older. Most intact men are quite happy with their status and would never dream of getting circ'd. Of the few I have met online who did opt to have it done as an adult they either A.) deeply regretted it after the fact or B.) were happy with their decision but also their parents decision to let them decide.
Obviously without knowing the two men that were circumcised for infections and knowing their history, I cant say for sure, but 99% of *necessary* circumcisions in the US are NOT necessary. Did they have cancer of the foreskin? Gangrene? Then it wasnt needed. The problem is, doctors in the US have this attitude that if something is wrong with a penis and it still has the foreskin attached, well, obviously its the foreskin's fault. I know two men who were circ'd as older kids, one at 8 and one at 16. The first one was circ'd due to a yeast infection. No joke. Do we circ our daughters for a yeast infection?? Heck no. We give them antibiotics. Ironically after the circ his yeast infection got worse, not better. The other man was circ'd because he couldnt retract yet. Thats all. There was no pain, he wasnt having infections-simple stretching could have fixed the issue. But instead, he was circ'd.
Again, how do we treat a girl or a woman with an infection in the genital area? We give her medications to get rid of it. I have never met a girl who had her labia removed due to recurrent infections. Sadly, those men you met wouldnt have been circumcised had they been treated the way they should have.
I will be honest, I couldnt have cared less about the circumcision debate when my ds was born or even for months after. He was left intact because my insurance didnt cover it, simple as that. What made me actually look into it was my dh's unhappiness over being circ'd. Yes, most men never care whether they were circ'd or not, but as the info gets out there, more men are realising what was taken from them and arnt happy with it. Especially with circ rates being the way they are now (around 50% nationally, 30% in my own area), these boys will very much be exposed to both intact and circumcised penises as they grow up. Personally I'd be a lot more upset to see what I had lost than what I still had. And again, even my brother in laws, who are in their 20's and were born during a time when most boys were still circ'd, are very happy with their status and were never made fun of (to clarify, they are intact). The most they got was curiosity over it. As they said, most guys wouldnt admit to looking at another guys junk anyway!
I am leaving the decision to my son. Leaving him intact was the default; circumcising is not. I wouldnt risk my sons health or life for a cosmetic procedure.