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To circ. or not to circ. your boy???

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#1 ·
Okay, just curious how many of you if having boys are planning on having him circumcised (Sp?). Too lazy to look up proper spelling. Sorry! LOL Anyway, my oldest son is 15 and was not circ., my 2yr old was. However, after reading about how it is done, seen pics, it is scary and I can't see the real benefits of having the procedure performed on such a innocent child who will feel the pain. My problem is this....many years ago it seemed it was more accepted to go uncirc. and then a faze where is was more accepted to be circ. I am not saying I will go with "what everyone else is doing" but what if my son meets a girl who has never seen a uncirc. penis. Like me at age 17, I was a felt awkward. I assumed he wasn't circ. but it looked so strange after having a little brother that was circ. and that to me at least was normal looking cuz I had only seen them that way. It does seem more and more people are choosing to go uncirc. And I am considering this with the new baby. Knowing what my son must have went through during the procedure and how raw and painful it looked afterwards makes my heart ache. I hopes this makes sense. My hubby is uncirc. but he leans to be circ. and I feel like if I show him info online about the procedure he will change his mind, but it's my mind need to make up first. Ya know, my word wil stand! LOL Any opinions?
 
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Originally Posted by angelamclamb
Thanks for the responses, that's exactly what I needed to hear. Jaclyn
, you didn't offend me, I appreciate your feedback. I regret that my 2yr old was circ. I also look at it like this and it is the biggest weighing factor. If God meant for them to be that way or they would have been borned differently, without the foreskin. Since they are born with it, then it is meant to be. I wish I had more info like this before having my 2yr old circ. The outcome would have been different. I have also read online that circ. men do not get as much pleasure as a circ. men due to the lack of the foreskin, the nerves were cut.

On a side note, having been with a circ. man and an uncirc. man, I feel that a women gets more pleasure as well from an uncirc. man. More friction per-say.


I have also noticed a size difference as well, it truly does seem that uncirc. men are larger in every aspect...whether it's that or genes, who knows....but I think it being uncirc. gives more room to grow... LOL

Okay, uncirc. it will be!!! My hubby wil agree when I explain all this to him and being he is uncirc...I dont think it will take much for him to agree.

Off to sulk in my regret for hacking up my 2yr olds penis.

don't sulk in regret! I admire you for, even after you circ'ed your son, deciding not to circ your next baby. I have met too many parents that circ their future boys only because their other children are, or their dh;s are, and to be honest I think that is wrong. we learn as we go, and yes, sometimes we make mistakes as parents, but knowing that circumcision is wrong and doing it yet again, is not right, IMO. I think it takes courage to stand up, be brave enough to go against the masses in this country (the only country in the world where RIC is done) and defend your son's body. yes, It's also true the intact penises are better looking. my dh, and ds are intact although I have seen circ'ed penises (my whole family is intact though because we are from chile) and intact looks MUCH nicer. I also think circ'ed penises have trouble when having sex. a lot of women will deny this because all the men they have had intercourse with are circ'ed, so they have no point of comparison. it's proven that yes, there is a difference. I trust nature way to much to cut a part of my baby off stating it does no good to let it stay on. I don't want to play God like so many doctors do nowadays, I trust nature did the best and created us perfect. unfortunately many parents cannot be brave enough to stand up for their children, but I am so happy you are. you learn as you go, and you are a brave and wise mama.
 
#29 ·
Lord, thanks for all the responses! We are not circ'ing, when I read an article that was posted here to hubby, he also felt regret for hacking up Noah like that, but hey, Noah will certainly grow up knowing the difference between circ'ing and not as hubby isn't circ'ed and new ds will not be. It's true, by the time our little one's get up some age then I think circ'ing will be much less common. Thanks again for all the info as well. WOW, you gals are great!
 
#31 ·
I will never circ any of my boys, and we are Jewish. It was hard for my husband and I to face our families about what was for us an easy decision not to harm our son in this way...and, btw, most all of the boys in my older son's age group (he's 13) are not mutilated, so it would be strange to see a penis that has been cut. My son did have a friend who was circ'd and when they were changing for swimming all the boys were telling him how sorry they felt for him, etc. as he has this permanent injury scar to such a sensitive spot, they were horrified that such a thing had been done to their friend without his consent!

Here are some links for you;

http://www.noharmm.org/

http://www.nocirc.org/

http://www.fathermag.com/health/circ/

http://www.sexuallymutilatedchild.org/say-no.htm
 
#32 ·
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Originally Posted by mommaof3
I will never circ any of my boys, and we are Jewish. It was hard for my husband and I to face our families about what was for us an easy decision not to harm our son in this way...and, btw, most all of the boys in my older son's age group (he's 13) are not mutilated, so it would be strange to see a penis that has been cut. My son did have a friend who was circ'd and when they were changing for swimming all the boys were telling him how sorry they felt for him, etc. as he has this permanent injury scar to such a sensitive spot, they were horrified that such a thing had been done to their friend without his consent!

I am so glad to hear that you, even being jewish, decided not to mutilate! I congratulate you for your decision! I am sure it was hard for you guys to face your families, but I totally relate to knowing that you would do anything to avoid your child that kind of harm
 
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