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Last year, Caroline sent her seven-year-old son to his Scholastic school book fair with five dollars and a note to his teacher that she wanted him to pick a good reading book. Instead, he came home instead with a Batman drawing book and three thirteen-inch flexible pencils. Caroline was understandably upset. She didn't blame her son for his choices—it's not surprising a young boy would be drawn to a Batman book or gimmicky pencils. Nor did she feel that she could really expect the teacher to monitor all of the children's purchases. Instead, she started wondering why these products are offered at all by a fair whose ostensible purpose is to promote reading. Caroline is not alone. An increasing number of parents and educators are concerned about the products sold at fairs organized by Scholastic, Inc., the nation's leading book fair company. They note the presence of non-book items such as posters, key chains, toys, fashion accessories, and electronic media. It's a little hard to figure out how bracelets, videogames, or whoopee cushions (I'm not making that up) promote literacy. Parents are also upset by the number of books that are linked to television programs, movies, and toys, including titles as the Cartoon Network's Scooby Doo and the Frankenstein Monster, Disney Princess Promises, and Lil' Bratz: Beauty Sleepover Bash! Books that are media tie-ins don't introduce children to new worlds or new ideas. Instead, they simply reintroduce children to the stories and characters that many of them are all too familiar with from screens, toys and cereal boxes. By selling these books, schools promote media programs and whole lines of associated products—even as we know that heavy television viewing is linked to childhood obesity and lower academic performance.1 According to a Scholastic representative, 35-40% of the books sold at a typical book fair are linked to a movie, television show or video game.2 Operating under what Juliet Schor calls a "wholesome halo"—its reputation as a quality educational publisher—allows Scholastic to escape much of the criticism aimed at other major in-school marketers like Channel One.3But Scholastic book fairs are big business. Last year, they generated $404 million in revenue for the company while providing the cover for major companies such as Disney and Nickelodeon to peddle their wares to children in schools.4 In other words, book fairs have become yet another way for corporations to prey on children. That's why an increasing number of parents and educators have turned away from Scholastic and are working with independent booksellers to hold "Commercial-Free Book Fairs." At a Commercial-Free Book Fair, you won't find video games, makeup, SpongeBob or the Disney Princesses. But you will find lots of new and classic children's books whose wonderful stories and characters are satisfying in and of themselves, not a means to sell other products to children. Providing an alternative for children who are already inundated with marketing for media-linked products is just one of the benefits of a Commercial-Free Book Fair. Commercial-Free Book Fairs also help schools and communities:
"What a thrill it was to see 4-year-old kindergartners and 13-year-old middle schoolers hit our school lobby this week and show real excitement that it was time for the book fair. With books provided by the locally-owned Porter Square Books, we demonstrated that, given the chance, K-8 kids will embrace the opportunity to look at—and even buy!—all manner of books, from bilingual versions of Puss in Boots to classics and recent titles from major Young Adult authors like Walter Dean Myers. With virtually no media tie-ins to the books, and no free key chains promoting television characters, our school's Fall Book Fair fulfilled our wish that such school activities can support curriculum and equity while also limiting cross-promotional opportunities for major corporations." At CCFC, we've created a guide to help you hold your own Commercial-Free Book Fair. The guide includes simple tips to help you change the culture of book fairs in your school, as well as a glossary of independent booksellers who support book fairs. We hope that you'll download it and share it with others in your community. Because isn't it about time to put the book back in book fair as we work towards making our schools commercial-free? Download CCFC's Guide to Commercial-Free Book Fairs. Notes:
When Karen Adelmann's daughter Lily was born, Lily's grandfather bought the entire catalog of Baby Einstein DVDs. The DVDs cost a considerable sum of money, but he believed they would be important, if not essential, to Lily's development. Karen was happy to receive the videos. She had heard that the Baby Einstein series was designed to enhance learning and the idea of giving her baby a head start was understandably appealing. When Lily was six months old, Karen sat down with her to watch one of the DVDs and was immediately discomfited by what she saw. Lily sat and stared as if she was in a trance. Thinking that perhaps Lily was just too young for the videos, she waited a few months and tried again. Once again, Karen reports, her daughter "turned into a zombie. She wasn't clapping or cooing or interacting." Disturbed, Karen did some online research. It was only then that she found out that the American Academy of Pediatrics recommends no screen time for children under two. Karen and her father were not alone in the belief that the Baby Einstein videos would benefit her babies' development. A 2003 study by the Kaiser Family Foundation found that 49 percent of parents think educational videos are "very important" in the intellectual development of children. By contrast, only 6% of parents are aware of the American Academy of Pediatrics' recommendation. Media companies cultivate and exploit the erroneous belief that screen media is good for babies. The packaging for Baby Einstein's Baby Wordsworth proclaims that the video is a "rich and interactive learning experience that introduces your little one to the concepts of verbal and written communication and sign language" and "fosters the development of your toddler's speech and language skills." Brainy Baby claims its Peak-a-boo DVD is "brain stimulating" and "helps nurture such important skills as object permanence, communication skills, cause and effect, language development and many others." BabyFirstTV, the first television station for babies, alleges that its programs will "inspire creativity," develop language skills, and "engage children in identifying patterns of thinking and developing creative ways of viewing the world." For overworked parents, the electronic babysitter can seem like the perfect solutiona chance to help their baby's development and catch their breath at the same time. But while the producers of baby videos may be telling parents what they want to hear, they aren't telling them the truth. There is no evidence that screen media is educational for children under two or that any of these videos benefit babies in any way. And the false and deceptive marketing of these videos may actually be putting infants and toddlers at risk. While there haven't been many studies about babies and screen media, the research that does exist is cause for concern. Research suggests thatfor babiesTV viewing interferes with cognitive development and regular sleep patterns. Hours of screen time are also negatively correlated with the time children under two spend interacting with parents and in creative play, which are the foundations of learning. TV viewing can also have long range implications. It is primarily through screen media that companies target young children with marketing for junk food, junk toys, and the underlying message that they need brands in order to be happy. Watching screen media can also be habit forming andfor older childrenhours of screen time are linked to childhood obesity, poor school performance and bullying. Media companies should not be allowed to lure babies to screens under false pretenses. That's why the Campaign for a Commercial-Free Childhood (CCFC) filed a complaint with the Federal Trade Commission (FTC) against Baby Einstein and Brainy Baby for false and deceptive advertising. Given what's at stakethe wellbeing of our youngest and most vulnerable childrenthe producers of baby videos must be held accountable for any claims they make about the developmental and educational benefits of their products. If you share CCFC's concerns about the deceptive marketing of baby videos, we hope you'll share them with others. You can start by telling the FTC that parents deserve honest information when it comes to media and their children.You can also encourage friends and relatives not to purchase baby videos as shower gifts or birthday presents. And you can help educate new and expecting parents by letting them know that videos are not necessary or even beneficial for a baby's development; that screen media may be harmful to young children; and that the American Academy of Pediatrics' recommends no screen time for children under two. After Lily's disturbing encounters with Baby Einstein, Karen Adelmann decided she wasn't ready to surrender her daughter to the billion dollar baby media industry. She put the videos away and never showed themor any screen mediato her again. Lily is twenty-months-old now, an engaging creative toddler who is learning and growing every day. Television will have to wait; Lily is too busy playing and exploring the world around her.
On May 7-11, marketers from all over the world will gather at the Disney Yacht Club in Orlando at the 13th annual Kid Power Conference and Awards. Kid Power, of course, means purchasing powerit is estimated that children under twelve spend more than $30 billion on purchases and influence more than $500 billion in purchases per year. Given these staggering figures, it's not surprising that Disney, Nickelodeon, Scholastic, and other major marketers to children are gathering for a week of networking and presentations on the latest market research. For those of us, however, who are not in the business of selling to children, there is something profoundly disturbing about Kid Power and other conferences devoted to helping people market to children. When CCFC's co-founder Dr. Susan Linn attended the Advertising and Promoting to Kids conference in 2002, she was struck by the fact that it was the only conference about children she'd ever been to where no one was talking about what was best for them. Among themselves, marketers don't have to pay lip service to concerns that child-directed marketing undermines parents, efforts to raise healthy children and contributes to childhood obesity, youth violence, precocious and irresponsible sexuality, and children's diminished capacity to play creatively. Instead, they can focus all their energy on how to exploit children for profit. Take Firefly Mobile, for instance. Firefly has marketed its phone for preteens as an essential safety device and a way for parents to keep tabs on their children. But it's not the safety features that Firefly will be talking about at Kid Power. Fred Bullock, Firefly's Chief Marketing Officer will discuss the "unique characteristics of wireless communications for kids" and the implications for "marketers and content developers." Cell phones, it seems, are a pretty good way for marketers to stay in constant contact with your kids too. Bullock will also be part of panel that asks, "Are Kids Getting Older Younger?" In another context, such a panel might entail a serious look at how the various academic and social pressures facing children today are affecting children's well-being. For marketers, however, the oft-repeated mantra "Kids are getting older younger" is a simply an excuse to market sex and violence to younger children. At "Untapping Kid-fluence", marketers will learn how "kids wield increasing power in families' choice of traditional consumer packaged goods to more non-traditional choices like the family car or vacation destination." But you can bet that no one will be asking if this increased power is a good thing, whether kids should be involved in car purchases, or whether families are well-served by having their children lobby for vacation destinations they've seen advertised on Nickelodeon. Instead, marketers will learn to leverage "the best ways to tap into and use kids' negotiation power." In other words, they'll learn how to get to kids to nag more effectively for their brands. In fact, just about everything objectionable about child-directed marketing will be on display at Kid Power. Concerned about the growing corporate presence in schools? At "Eyes Up Front Please. Getting Your Message to Kids in the Classroom" marketers will learn how to create "materials that align with National Standards so that the programs are a ‘need' to teach and not a ‘want to teach'". Appalled by the gendered messages that marketers sell to children? At Kid Power, marketers will learn how to create a "lifestyle brand" from Disney Princess. Horrified by children's nonprofits that sell out children and families by collaborating with exploitative corporations? At Kid Power, marketers will learn about "Partnering with Organizations and Building Alliances" from US Youth Soccer Director of Marketing Chris Branscome. It was under Branscome's watch that US Youth Soccer partnered with the lawn care company ChemLawn and sent mailings that were designed to get young soccer players to nag their parents for ChemLawn's potentially toxic products. And then there are the awards. At Kid Power, marketers will actually celebrate and honor their peers for manipulating young children (only ads aimed at children twelve and under are eligible). According to the Kid Power website, campaigns are evaluated based on the following criteria:
Notice anything missing? Campaigns are not judged on whether they positively or negatively influence children. There is no evaluation of the message – whether it implies that children need a product to be happy or popular; whether it propagates gender or racial stereotypes - or even whether the product being advertised is good for children. That's why, in the midst of growing concerns about the role junk food marketing plays in the childhood obesity epidemic, last year's winner of the Best Campaign in Food and Beverage category was Burger King. As disturbing as the Kid Power Conference and Awards are, they offer an important lesson: If we are serious about protecting children from exploitative marketing, we cannot look to the marketing industry to take the lead or expect self-regulation to work. It is clear from the way the child marketers talk to each other and evaluate their peers, that the well-being of children is simply not a priority. It is up to those of us who value children for more than what they can buy to advocate for policies that will limit corporate marketers' access to children. If we really want to empower our kids, we'll allow them to grow up without being undermined by commercial interests.
When I was in fourth grade, after our class had finished reading C.S. Lewis' The Lion, the Witch and the Wardrobe, our teacher announced we were going on a special trip. After a short drive, we arrived at a wooded area covered in fresh snow. We walked for several minutes through the woods, our anticipation building with every step, until we arrived at a dilapidated, abandoned house. Our teacher gathered us close and asked if we knew where we were. When no one answered, she paused dramatically and then stage-whispered, "Narnia!" She didn't have to say anything after that. For the rest of the afternoon, we raced around calling out our discoveries. The house became Professor Kirke's large country house, which contained the magic wardrobe through which the children entered Narnia. And here was the spot where Lucy first met Mr. Tumnus the faun. And look at those tracks in the snow – those could only have been made by the great Aslan himself! For one afternoon, thanks to an ingenious teacher, C.S. Lewis' wonderful story, and the power of our own imaginations, a rather unremarkable stretch of woods was magically transformed. I've been thinking a lot about that afternoon as Disney gets ready to release the film, The Chronicles of Narnia: The Lion, the Witch and Wardrobe. While the film will undoubtedly introduce (and reintroduce) millions of children to the wonderful world of Narnia, I fear the film is more likely to inspire trips to the mall than to the woods. My concerns have nothing to do with the content of the film (as of this writing, I haven't seen it), but rather with all of the excess commercialism linked to The Chronicles of Narnia. According to Oren Aviv, head of marketing at Disney, the film has approximately $150 million in corporate tie-ins— an amount he believes is a record. Here's a look at some of what the film will be promoting:
In short, the lesson that Disney is teaching through its Chronicles of Narnia promotions is the exact opposite of what my teacher taught me and my classmates twenty-five years ago - that Narnia is a magical outdoor place and entry is free using the power of your imagination. According to Disney, entry to Narnia is purchased at supermarkets, toy stores and malls. That's the bad news. The good news is that the commercialization of Narnia offers an excellent starting point for a discussion about the impact of marketing on children. So if you share my concerns about the Narnia tie-ins and promotions, I hope you'll raise them with other parents. If your child's teacher is using Disney's The Chronicles of Narnia Educator's Guide, help them realize that by promoting the film, they are promoting junk food and junk toys as well. If your church has endorsed Narnia (Disney is actively promoting the film to clergy), here is a chance to point out that the film's spiritual messages are undermined by its excessive commercialism. Is it acceptable for the film adaptation of a children's classic to promote junk food and consumerism while undermining children's play? Should definitions of "family-friendly" media be limited to discussions of sexual and violent content or should they be expanded to include the marketing and associated products as well? Is it just up to parents to deal with the inevitable nagging for Narnia products and food or should we have policies that limit marketing that directly targets children? These are the questions we must start asking if we hope to reclaim childhood from corporate marketers. Here's hoping you and your family spend plenty of time in Narnia this holiday season – without ever stepping foot in McDonald's or a mall.
Tickle U Is No Laughing Matter “I will be very proud if moms treat
us as a baby sitter.” - Alice Cahn, Cartoon Network’s Vice
President for Programming and Development. Cartoon Network
recently unleashed the latest commercial assault on young children in
the form of Tickle U, a two-hour block of preschool programming that
will air every weekday. Sadly, there is so much commercial media aimed
at young children these days that ten more hours of television per week
is hardly news in and of itself. What is new, however, are the claims
that Cartoon Network is making about the educational benefits of its
programs and how the programming is being marketed. Marketing
and Parental Responsibility We get a lot of questions about parental responsibility at the Campaign for
a Commercial-Free Childhood (CCFC). If, the questions go, we are suffering from
an epidemic of childhood obesity; if younger and younger children are consuming
media with sexual and violent content; if 40 % of ten-year-old girls are on
diets - isn’t it because parents aren’t properly monitoring their
children’s activities or saying “no” often
enough? Blaming parents is a popular sport these days. Even though we know
that marketing is a factor in childhood obesity, eating disorders, precocious
and irresponsible sexuality, youth violence, family stress and the erosion of
children’s creative play, some people still like to point the finger at
parents. Marketers do it because it takes the spotlight off them. Some
politicians do it because it’s easier to talk about what parents are doing
wrong than to consider policies that would restrict corporate access to
children. Sadly, even parents blame other parents – and themselves –
for their failure to do the impossible: completely shield their children from a
marketing industry that refuses to respect parents’ authority as
gatekeepers. It’s true that there are things parents can do to
limit the influence of marketers over their children’s lives. Most
importantly, they can limit their children’s screen time. This means no
televisions in children’s bedrooms and limits on Internet use and video
games, where children are increasingly targeted by ads and product placement.
Parents can also talk to older children about how advertising works and help
them understand the ways in which marketers are trying to influence them.
But even the most attentive and well-intentioned parents cannot protect
their kids from all child-directed marketing. For one, there is simply too much
of it. Marketers spend more than $15 billion a year targeting children, much of
it deliberately designed to circumvent parents and undermine their authority.
The absence of parents is one reason corporations like to target children in
schools. Viral marketing –which provides popular children with free
products to market to their unsuspecting friends – is another way
marketers make an end run around parents. At the same time, advertisements
frequently undermine parental authority by encouraging children to nag for
products. Any discussion of parental responsibility must recognize that
marketers deliberately make it harder for parents to be responsible. Consider,
for instance, the parents who decided not to take their kids to see Star Wars:
Episode III-Return of the Sith because they were concerned that the extremely
violent PG-13 movie was not appropriate - as George Lucas himself said - for
young children. While they were being responsible, their kids were being
bombarded with messages urging them to see the movie. Star Wars ads were on
shows for young children on Nickelodeon such as RugRats. Ads for Star Wars
themed junk food were everywhere. Star Wars toys were heavily advertised for
kids as young as four. And even if parents were able to keep their children away
from all media, the grocery store, and the toy store, they certainly
couldn’t keep them away from other kids who were targeted by the same
marketing and undoubtedly talking about Star Wars. In Seattle, Brita Butler-Wall was so troubled by the marketing
she saw in schools that she co-founded the Citizen’s Campaign for
Commercial-Free Schools. As if that wasn’t enough, she then ran for the
Seattle School Board – and won! Now, with Dr. Wall as Board President,
Seattle is a leader in the movement to limit corporate access to children in
schools. In the Quad Cities, a group of parents was so
concerned after hearing a talk by CCFC’s co-founder, Dr. Susan Linn, that
they decided to start their own chapter of our organization. Now, CCFC-Quad
Cities helps raise public awareness about the harms of marketing to children
throughout Iowa and Illinois. What do all these examples have in common?
They demonstrate that responsibility means more than just trying to protect your
own children. It means working to change a culture that values corporate profits
more than children, and fighting to change the rules that allows marketers
unfettered access to kids. Responsibility also means sharing your
concerns about marketing with others. That’s why – with the help of
our Quad Cities chapter – we’ve created a series of fact sheets about marketing to children. The sheets are
organized by topic (e.g. Marketing in Schools, Marketing to Babies, Marketing
and Childhood Obesity, Marketing Violence) and include resources for concerned
parents and citizens. We hope you’ll take a look at these sheets and, if
you’re concerned or angry about what you read, print them out and share
them with your friends or family. Or bring them to your local church or
community group or your local PTA. American
Teens Feel Pressure to Want More, Nag More, New Survey Shows Advertising at its best is making
people feel that without their productyou're a loser. Kids are very sensitive to
that. If you tell them to buy something, they are resistant. But if you tell
them they'll be a dork if they don't, you've got their
attention. Most parents understand the "nag
factor" all too well. They know that their kids are bombarded by ads
telling them to buy certain products in order to be popular. Then comes the
nagging. According to a new national survey of youth commissioned by the Center
for a New American Dream, the average American child aged 12-17 who asks their
parents for products they've seen advertised will ask nine times until their
parents finally give in. For parents of so-called "tweens," the
problem is particularly severe - amazingly, more than ten percent of 12-13 year
olds admit to asking their parents more than fifty times for products they've
seen advertised. The unfortunate fact is that kids feel an
overwhelming need to buy a host of consumer goods in order to fit in. According
to the study, nearly a third surveyed admitted feeling pressure to buy things
like clothes, shoes and CDs because their friends have them. More than half
confessed that buying certain products makes them feel better about themselves.
"Parents and their kids are behind the eight
ball," says Betsy Taylor, executive director of the Center for a New
American Dream. "As a result of unprecedented levels of advertising and
marketing aimed at kids, our children feel intense pressure to try to bolster
their sense of self-esteem at the mall, and they will go to incredible lengths
to get their parents to give in." Advertisers
Strike it Rich Targeting Kids Brochure Offers Practical Tips for Parents Poll
Highlights * Advertisers Preying on Kids' Self-Esteem Keeping
Up With the Little Joneses a Big Problem No Means No
Until
It Finally Means Yes * Poll commissioned by the Center for a New American
Dream and conducted in May, 2002 by Widmeyer Communications. This information is
based on a nationally representative telephone study of 750 American youth ages
12-17. The margin of error for the poll is +/- 3.5%.
Teach Your Children to be Responsible
Consumers American children spent $29
billion in 2001 – out of allowances, baby-sitting earnings, gifts and
parental handouts. The average preteen spends six hundred dollars a year –
almost all of it on him or herself. When your kids plan to make a purchase,
teach them to be critical thinkers. Encourage your children to pause and think
about where things come from, who makes them, and where the products eventually
go when they’re tossed in the trash. Help your kids understand how our new
global economy works: and how behind every product is a faraway story of someone
who made and assembled the soccer ball, the tennis shoe, or the T-shirt. You can’t scrutinize every single purchase, but when the information is
available, try to determine whether products are made under humane working
conditions and in environmentally friendly ways. The two big questions all
consumers need to start asking are, “Is this product coming from a factory
where people are treated and paid fairly?” and “Is this product made
and packaged to protect the natural environment?” In most cases, we
don’t know. But environmental, labor, and consumer groups are working hard
to get this information to the public, so look for new consumer labels and
information. You can get your children to be conscious consumers by
buying wisely with a few easy purchases: Organic cotton T-shirt (greatly
reduces pesticide use and chemical exposure for farm workers). It’s important to start
teaching your children about being a responsible consumer from a young age. On
average, American children view over 20,000 television commercials each year,
which works out to well over 50 ads a day. American children aged 2-18 spends
nearly five and a half hours a day out of school consuming media in the form of
television, music, magazines, video games and the internet. With hundreds of
billions of dollars spent each year on advertising, it’s impossible to be
immune from commercialism, but there are steps we can take to protect our
children. If you have younger children try following some of these
practical tips from my book What Kids Really Want that Money Can’t Buy to
help you teach your children to be responsible consumers: Limit their
exposure to commercial messages, primarily by limiting commercial television.
Decide how much TV is enough and agree on the rule for your family, be it an
hour a day, two shows a week, or any other formula that feels right to you. When the going gets rough or you feel
it’s all hopeless, just remember that in the long run your kids will
deeply appreciate your efforts to protect them from commercialism. Nobody has
all the answers, so we can only do our best. When you say no and teach them
other ways, you are expressing your own powerful need to protect, nurture, and
support the best in your children. Want to do the right thing but
don’t know where to start? For more information, tips, and resources
please visit www.newdream.org/kids and www.ibuydifferent.org. What Kids Really Want that Money
Can't Buy When you combine a parent's busy schedule with the pressure
of television commercials, shopping malls, and peer pressure you have a recipe
for an over-indulged child. Today, there are an increasing number of parents
who fear they are raising children to be the "I want" generation and many
concerned moms and dads are looking for a way to break the cycle. In a
nationwide survey commissioned by the Center for a New American Dream
(newdream.org), a majority of parents said they feel that their kids are overly
materialistic, and many parents also believe they are losing ground in the
struggle for the hearts, minds, and wallets of their children. According to our
survey, nearly 9 in 10 Americans (87%) say that our current consumer culture
makes it harder to instill positive values in our children. Betsy Taylor, President of the Center for a New American Dream, asked
children to tell her what kids want that money can't buy. More than 2,500
children responded by expressing their desire for more time to enjoy life and
more old-fashioned fun. New American Dream took those very powerful and moving
entries and used them as the basis for her book, What Kids Really Want that
Money Can't Buy, a collection of practical tips for raising kids in a
commercial world.
Five helpful tips from Betsy Taylor's book What Kids Want that Money Can't
Buy.
Top Ten Alternative
New Year’s Resolutions This year make a resolution
you can stick to. New Year’s Day is about making a fresh start.
Instead of resolving to give up something, how about making a commitment this
year to “Get More” out of life? Try starting small and pick a
resolution or two that really matters to you and that you will actually enjoy
sticking to. The Center for a New American Dream is a non profit that
helps people live consciously, buy wisely and make a difference. The following
resolutions are not only good for you, but also for the environment and the
people around you. This year, make a pledge to get more of what matters in
life! More Time. Slow down to pause and take
a moment each day to yourself. Designate one or two nights a week where you turn
off the television and make a meal and eat dinner with family or friends. More Money. Recover from holiday spending by
making a plan to stay out of debt and stick with it all year long. Make a plan
to increase your savings by setting up a direct deposit from your paycheck to
your savings account. You’ll quickly adjust to the smaller pay, and your
savings will grow year after year. More Fun.
Get to know your neighbors by organizing a community potluck dinner traveling
from house to house. More Adventure. Let your
kids take one weekend a month to try new things or expose them to something they
have never tried before. For example, if your teenage son has been begging to go
play paint ball, try it together. More Good
Deeds. Rack up your good karma points by doing a good deed for someone
else (i.e., pay for someone’s toll behind you, shovel your
neighbors’ walkway, or help them with their yard work). You can also
volunteer at a homeless shelter or a retirement home throughout the year, when
those places need the most help -- not just during the holidays. More Nature. Instead of resolving to go to the gym three
times a week, pick one day to go dancing, hiking, skiing, bike riding, or just
resolve to spend more time outside. More
Creative. Pick something you have never done before and make sure this is
the year you do it. For example, try taking Japanese cooking or white water
kayaking lessons. Take all of those holiday catalogs and make paper mache bowls
as an art project for you and your kids. More
Fit. Start your new diet by eating more organic and fair trade foods.
Instead of punishing yourself with small portions and restrictions, try focusing
on improving the quality of the foods you eat. More
Organized. Clean out your closet and organize a clothes swap with friends
or donate them to good will. For more New Year’s Resolutions ideas
and to learn more about the Center for a New American Dream, go to www.newdream.org. December 2004 Not Sold in Stores: Ways to
Save Money, Protect the Planet, and Spread Cheer. With all the stress,
expense, and expectation surrounding the holiday season, it can be a challenge
to get through “the most wonderful time of the year” with our values
and our wallets intact. Here are a few fresh additions to New American
Dream’s eight years of holiday resources. For more tips and ideas from
past seasons, download a free copy of our “Simplify the Holidays”
booklet (or order a printed version) at www.simplifytheholidays.org. Laying the Groundwork • Host a
cookie swap. Everyone loves cookies, but who really enjoys the giant, goopy mess
of mixing a gazillion different kinds? Instead, bake in bulk and share. Six
friends who each make six dozen of the same kind of cookie can meet for coffee
and go home with a dozen of each kind. • Have a card party. Skip
the poker and invite friends over to fill out your holiday cards instead. It
won’t save you time, but it will turn an often tedious activity into a
social gathering at a time when you might otherwise be too busy to see your
friends! Noncommercial Gift Ideas • For distant friends and relatives who can’t make it
home for the holidays, frame a picture of their family home as a special
reminder of where they’re missed. • Take a friend off of junk mail.
Generate automatic forms with your recipient’s name and address at www.newdream.org/junkmail to reduce unwanted mail by 50
percent. Present the forms in stamped, addressed envelopes ready to sign and
mail. • Make an emergency kit. Do you know someone with an
unreliable car? Create a gift basket with a blanket, flashlight, gas can, jumper
cables, and flares. Does your friend walk home from work or class after dark?
Give peace of mind with pepper spray, a whistle, and a prepaid calling card.
• Buy renewable energy for a friend burning fossil fuel. Purchase
“renewable energy certificates” (RECs) to offset travel or household
energy use and promote the development of cleaner sources of energy. Online
calculators can help you figure out how much it costs to offset typical energy
use. Find regional energy providers at Green Tags (www.greentagsusa.com),
the U.S. Department of Energy (www.eere.energy.gov/ greenpower/buying),
or Green-e (1-888-63-GREEN, www.green-e.org). The Bonneville Foundation also has
seasonal giving programs at www.b-e-f.org. • Want to make a donation in
someone’s name, but not sure where? The nonprofit Charity Checks
(1-800-854-5601, www.charitychecks.us) allows recipients to choose which
organization(s) receive the funds. • Give the gift of forgiveness.
Call an estranged friend or write a letter to someone you haven’t seen in
a few years. Creative Reuse • Have a re-gift swap. We all have gift-quality things in our
closets that we don’t actually use. Get together a few like-minded friends
and trade tchotchkes. • Share a love of reading. Give away the last
great book you bought and enjoyed to someone who shares your taste. You’ll
get to talk about the story the next time you see each other, and you can always
reread a copy at the library. • “Shop” for secondhand
items online at www.freecycle.org (organized through email listservs), www.throwplace.com, or www.craigslist.org.
You’ll be amazed at what folks are giving away free or selling for peanuts
— everything from pickup trucks to spatulas. • Get crafty.
Stop throwing out corks and use them to make decorations. Skewer corks on
strands of wire, alternating them with different kinds of beads, and twisting
them into ornaments and “wino garlands” which can be hung around
your home and gives away as clever novelty gifts for fellow wine-lovers. With
creative flair, other items that reflect your interests can give a unique twist
to holiday fare. Fun for Kids, Without the
Presents • Several weeks before the holidays,
ask your children to write down what they most want to do as a family (aside
from shopping and gift-giving), and act on some of their suggestions, whether
it’s having snowball fights, baking desserts, or watching favorite movies.
• Storytelling is a powerful way to preserve family memories,
especially if you exaggerate a few details for posterity. Maybe you didn’t
really win a dreidl-spinning championship on ESPN, but your kids will enjoy
retelling the details of your miraculous come-from-behind victory. • Designate an amount of money to donate, and let your kids pick the
charity. Older kids can research different types of organizations and learn more
about causes that match your family’s values. Wrapping Gifts for Your Karma • During holiday road trips, pay for the car behind you at the toll
booth. • Shovel snow for an elderly neighbor. • Leave
potted flowers or herbs anonymously on a friend’s doorstep. •
Clean the cat box (et cetera) without being asked! • Send a card to
a soldier overseas or an injured veteran spending the holidays in a military
hospital. Scaling back at the holidays takes a little effort at first,
but can be deeply rewarding, leaving more time for family, faith, or just some
extra sleep. Regardless of what you celebrate, best wishes keeping it simple,
sane, and truly fun. -written by senior editor Jennifer
Errick Your Kids Need More of You! In a
nationwide contest that my organization ran for children across the nation, we
asked young people to answer the question, “What do you want that money
can’t buy?” Not surprisingly, the top response was this: they want
more of Mom and Dad! The good news is that more parents are taking steps
to spend quality time with their children. According to a study released
in 2001 at the University of Michigan, both working and nonworking parents spent
more time with their kids in 1997 than they did in 1981. Many parents are doing
everything in their power to make their children the top priority, and this is
precisely what kids say they want! As much as we love and cherish our
kids, it can be difficult to fully express our love and devotion in an age when
many of us are definitely in over our heads. We’re juggling work, home,
community, extended family, and more, and we often feel unable to give our
children enough time. It wasn’t always like this. In fact, things
were most likely very different in your own childhood. In asking for you,
today’s kids are picking up on a relatively recent phenomenon: for the
past three decades, parents and children have been spending less time with each
other. American parents spent 40 percent less time with their kids in 1985 than
they did in 1965. For the most part, this time crunch is because parents are
working more. During the past decade, parents have become more aware of this
dilemma and are often making heroic efforts to be with their children, but the
demands of work are powerful. Americans working outside the job spent
142 hours (three and a half weeks) more per year on the job in 1994 than they
did in 1973. The average American employee works nearly a full workweek more
each year now than he or she would have just ten years ago. Kids lose out when
we work too much. Parents are working more for several reasons:
financial pressure related to healthcare, housing and education costs, along
with workplace norms and rising material expectations that require ever more
income. But in a recent poll by the Center for a New American Dream, nearly half
of all those surveyed said they’d give up one day of work (and pay) to get
more time. So how can you spend more time with your children? First, pay
attention. Even if you child pushes you away (think teens), in her heart of
hearts, she wants to be with you. Here are five things you can do to make sure
your child gets a little more of that special parental attention: l)Create a Kid-Centered Routine – Try to have at
least one small part of your day focused exclusively on each child. It might be
a morning walk to the bus stop or coming together as a family at dinnertime
(turning off the television and ignoring the hone.) You might devote ten minutes
exclusively to being together at the end of the day for “tuck in” or
chat together each night while doing dishes. Make it a regular time though and
don’t be multi-tasking. Focus on your child. 2) Play Hooky – Once or twice a year, take a day off
work and school (or perhaps a day off work when school is closed for teacher
conferences) to spend time together. Use it to do something unpredictable and
memorable. Ride bikes. See a play. Rent a canoe. follow your children’s
passions. If they say all they want to do is watch a video, just take them off
for an adventure anyway. Their initial resistance, in apart a consequence of
habit, will usually be overtaken by their reawakened pleasure in fun pastimes,
and you’ll all come home laughing. 3) Enjoy
Simple Things Together – Sometimes life can feel like one highly
scheduled, nonstop event. In the midst of school, homework and extracurricular
activities, set aside some time for fun. Dance. Make a collage. Break out a
board game or cards. Cook an apple pie, sing, or play a game of catch outside.
Often it’s these shared simple experiences that create the happiest and
most enduring memories. Go to www.newdream.org for tips for parenting in a
commercial world and ideas for simple living. 4)
Consider reducing your workload – This is a little tougher for sure
but a growing number of parents are opting to work less, spend less, save more,
and have extra time as a result. We often work because we need the money. If you
can find ways to reduce your spending, you just might gain a little freedom.
Sometimes this involves investigating options for part-time work, job sharing,
or working from home. This option is not available to everyone, either because
of work demands or financial pressures. But more and more parents are opting out
of the up scaling American dream in search of more time with their families.
5) Join with others in pushing for a nationally
mandated reduced work week. The average European works 35 hours per week
while the average American works closer to 43 hours. Go to the Take Back Your
Time website at www.timeday.org and check out their suggestions for
action. In the end, life is short. We all know it but we get swept up in
the rush. More work, more debt, more juggling. More e-mail, cell phones, and
to-do lists. Meanwhile, our kids grow up. Grab the now. Hug your kid. Put little
notes in their lunchboxes to surprise them. Plant a seed on your windowsill and
marvel at it together. Do the simple things and just notice that your child
probably wants a little more of you. And you probably want a little more time
with them. October 2004 Action Tips Footnotes |
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