Diapering Confusion

hello naomi, i am having a really challenging time with my 8 month old son. we've been using cloth diapers since he was born and have always changed them very soon after he peed or pooped so he has a real awareness of when he goes. the last couple of months he's been getting really upset when i change his diaper, and sometimes i have to hold him as he's trying to roll over and crawl away so i can get it on, which feels really bad. i want to respect his body and his wishes! so i've been trying having him diaperless in the house and taking him to the toilet, or a little potty when he needs to pee, which for the first day was easy and fun - we were both relaxed and he peed in it 3 times. since then, he seems to be uncomfortable peeing in a diaper when he's wearing one. when he has to go at night he rolls around and whimpers and is very restless until he pees finally. i've tried offering the toilet or potty many times and it seems like each time he wants less to do with it. maybe because i got excited when he used it and now he feels pressure? i do say to him whenever he pees that its ok to pee anywhere.. and i have still been making the sss sound when i notice him peeing, which could be too much attention maybe. also he gets visibly agitated sometimes now and has been hitting and throwing things and biting me sometimes, which he didn't do before. i am feeling very sad because i think my feeling unsure and anxious is reflected in him feeling unsure and anxious and i am having a really hard time getting clear and understanding what he needs. it seems to me that he doesn't want to wear a diaper and he doesn't want to use a toilet, and we live in oregon where it's too cold now to be diaperless outside. i want to do what is good for both of us, and constantly cleaning pee and poop off of everything feels really stressful for me. i feel afraid that my lack of direction is also uncomfortable for him, so maybe that is causing his frustration as well. thank you for your help. i appreciate your writings and your spirit so much.