Child Refusing to Carpool

Dear parent,

What you offer your child is a music class; not a ride in a car of her choice. You could go 

in your car and let the other parent drive and pay for gas every other time, but I do not see that as a healthy choice. Your daughter can either ride the way that you offer, or stop the class.

It sounds to me like the class is more important to you than to your child. I also sense that she knows that it is your agenda and is saying, “I will give you what you want (that I take the class) if you give me what I want (ride in our car.)” 

The fact that your child thinks she can have power over you through bribes, tells me of an unhealthy dynamic between that two of you. She should have power over herself, not over you. Freedom is not power over others. If you gave a ride to your neighbors, they would not dictate what car you drive. Your daughter is confused. She thinks it is up to her because you have taught her to have such power over you. Please watch my video: You are the Leader: http://authenticparent.com/lectures.html

I would love to assist you with the dynamics between you and your daughter. If you would like to do that, you can book yourself a phone session with me on my site. I also offer sessions about music development of young children and could offer you guidance. 

Warmly, http://authenticparent.com/index.html