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Co- Sleeping Driving me NUTS!!!

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#1 ·
I have a dd who is 19 months old, we have been co-sleeping from the beginning. She has always been a light and crazy sleeper ( like she has not ONCE slept through a night) Most of the time, even on rough nights I am fine with it because I love having her close. The past few weeks I wake up and want to pull my hair out. She nurses constantly milk or not, and she wants me to lay a certain way on my side which kills my back. I really don't know what to do, the anger I feel at night stays with me all day. I have recently had to go back to work because DH lost his job. Maybe she just wants to be closer to me at night because I see less of her during the day. I feel like a bad mama for letting her drive me crazy. I am just wondering if we should have ever started co-sleeping. Everyone told me not too it would drive me mad... maybe I should have listened to them!!
 
#2 ·
I think co-sleeping can be ROUGH. My son is 3.5yrs and still sleeps with us. There are times when I love it and times when I've absolutely had enough. In fact, I hopped over to this forum to get tips on weening my little from the family bed! But, it does sound like you're under a lot of stress right now, going back to work and all. If co-sleeping isn't working for you, you don't HAVE to do it. You can find another way that works for your family. Do what works for you. There's no point in co-sleeping if you're so angry about it that you don't enjoy it
And be gentle with yourself. Going back to work is HARD. It takes some time to get your balance, believe me, I know.
Take care...
 
#3 ·
I agree that there is no point in co-sleeping if you hate it!!! I am not a co-sleeper. Yes when my babies are newborns they are in my bed for a couple of weeks, then in a bassinet in my room for several months, then they go into their room. I just dont like it, I can never sleep well, and we are a happier and better rested family this way. It did get kind of tough nursing in the middle of the night having to sit in a rocking chair but it was worth it to me.
 
#4 ·
I've co-slept. But by 1 3/4 years I had to wean the girls into a bed beside my bed. At just over 2 years I got them into another room.

My kids kick. All night. And I am their favourite target. I love cosleeping, but by 2 they are so strong that it is hell.

My 2.5 year old will still try to come sleep with me sometimes. I wish it were possible, but no one sleeps with her in the bed.


But it was really quite painless for the most part to get them into a toddler bed beside my bed. And the second one went to the room with her sister very easily. It was a party for both of them. The older got to go to the top bunk, and the younger got to go to the room with her sister. I would nurse her in her new bed in her room. At first I stayed with her in her bed until she went to sleep. Then I stayed on the floor until she went to sleep. Now she just goes to bed.

My first girl had a harder time giving up night nursing than moving beds. She was very kind - she knew the nursing was hurting me because I was pregnant, but she missed it for a couple of weeks.

There were some hard nights. There was some bedtimes that were unpleasant. But overall it worked out very well.
 
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